Guests should be a joy to have at a wedding, but in some instances they can be a regret or shame. So be a superstar attendee by avoiding these five pitfalls no bride and groom wants to deal with on their wedding day.
1. Rush the buffet.
It may be self-serve, but "typically tables are invited up to the buffet in some organized fashion," explains Viva Max Kaley, creator of Viva Max Weddings in New York. To ditch your requested turn isn't just bad manners — but "if everyone gets up at the same time to get food, you just end up standing in a long line."
2. Abuse an open bar.
Alcoholic beverages are expensive, so when they're on the house, it can be easy to overindulge. But getting drunk at your friend's fete is a big no-no. "Drunk guests become a nuisance to everyone and it's really in bad taste," says Chandra Keel, owner of Chandra Keel Events in Phoenix.
3. Stand in the way of striking photos.
"Too often as wedding planners, we see guests jumping out in front of the photographer — during the ceremony, first dance, cake cutting — so that they can take the winning picture," says Keel. "In doing so, they ruin beautiful shots because they're in the way and hinder the photographer from getting the photos they've been paid to capture."
4. Switch seats.
You put a ton of time into organizing a seating chart, and a rogue guest can ruin that work in a second. Thanks to "tricky family and friend dynamics, a couple has to carefully place people" explains Kaley. "It is not an easy task. If you want to hang out with some other friends and family, feel free to mingle and move around, but when it comes time to sit and eat, please take your seat."
5. Give a spontaneous speech.
Sharing your joy privately with the couple is totally kosher. Standing up with a microphone — not so much. "If there are too many speeches, the reception can get boring," says Kaley. "If you're really moved and think you'll want to have some words at the wedding, it's best to ask in advance to see if there's time. However, some couples don't like a lot of speeches on their special day. If that's the case, just support them in their wishes and help create the day they'd like to see."